Why We Must Continue to Speak Up

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to shine a light on the devastating issue that impacts millions of individuals and families worldwide. This month serves as a reminder that domestic violence isn’t just a physical issue—it’s deeply emotional, psychological, and mental. For many survivors, the scars run far deeper than what can be seen.

A Brief History

Domestic Violence Awareness Month began in October 1987, bringing much-needed attention to a problem that too often remained hidden behind closed doors. It was created to break the silence around abuse, support survivors, and promote resources for prevention. In 1989, Congress officially passed legislation designating October as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Since then, communities across the nation have come together every year to raise awareness, amplify survivors’ voices, and foster hope for change.

The Mental Health Impact on Survivors

For those who have been abused, the trauma extends well beyond physical harm. The emotional and psychological wounds left behind by domestic violence are often far more difficult to heal. Survivors frequently struggle with depression, anxiety, PTSD, and feelings of worthlessness. The constant emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and fear erode their sense of self-worth and safety, making it difficult to trust others and rebuild their lives.

Imagine living in a state of hypervigilance—constantly waiting for the next moment of violence or manipulation, never fully able to relax or feel safe in your own home. This is the reality for many survivors. Over time, their minds may internalize the abuse, leading them to believe that they deserve the pain, or worse, that they are powerless to escape it.

Breaking the Silence

Speaking up about domestic violence is one of the hardest things survivors can do. Many feel isolated, ashamed, and fearful of retaliation. But breaking the silence is essential. Awareness months like this one create a platform for survivors to share their stories, and for the rest of us to listen, learn, and provide support.

As a mental health therapist, I’ve worked with many survivors of domestic violence. Their journey to healing often begins with rebuilding a sense of safety—physically and mentally. Therapy provides a space to process the deep emotional scars left by abuse, allowing survivors to reconnect with their own strength, regain their sense of identity, and learn that the abuse they suffered was never their fault.

How You Can Help

Understanding the mental health aspects of domestic violence is key to being an ally. Listen to those who share their stories. Believe them. Offer them a safe space, free from judgment. And know that healing from abuse is not a linear process—it takes time, compassion, and patience.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month is a call to action. It’s a reminder that while awareness is important, real change requires continuous efforts. Support local organizations that provide resources for survivors, educate yourself and others on the signs of abuse, and most importantly, speak up when you see someone in need.

Together, we can create a culture where no one has to suffer in silence, where every survivor is heard, supported, and given the chance to heal.